In principle I like the idea that neighbours getting along looking out for each other and keep an eye on your house if you are on holiday along with the occasional chat when you are both out the front of your house. Maybe you could occasionally borrow something of theirs, you get the picture
However there comes a point when enough is enough, you just want to politely tell them to stop getting involved and if you have a neighbour like mine, I wouldn’t mind betting they are older, retired and lived in their house for years. I am sure some do not fit this stereotype.
I live in a fairly quiet, but built up area. On one side it is a house of mature students and on the other is an old married couple in their 70’s.
The older neighbour just has to know what is going on. I hardly ever see the wife, but him, well any chance he has to poke his head about he will take it.
He watches what you are doing, then comments, makes remarks and generally is too nosey for his own good and it has got to the point where I am about to tell him where to go…(you get the idea).
He has lived in the road for centuries and anyone would think you live on his land.
In 18 months of living where I do the following has happened:
- When I first moved in I had some trees cut down to allow some light into the garden. He didn’t like that. Proceeded to talk about it to other neighbours whilst I was in my garden.
- He then complained about how and where I stacked the logs from the trees that were cut down and how long it was taking for me to get rid of them.
- He told me how he helped the previous owners with so many jobs in and around the house. I don’t care.
- He has told me and others that they can’t park in certain spots in the road. Apparently he pays his road tax and that includes a space outside his house. As do I but when I can’t park outside mine because his daughters car is parked there, do I say anything…No. The only reason he parks in the road is because he has turned what could be his driveway into a garden.
- Told me not to open the passenger door of my car when in the drive because if it knocks the wall, the wall will fall down. The drive is small so does not allow you to even open the passenger door, only the drivers and unless the door was opened by the hulk would the wall fall down.
- He complained by multiple passing comments that my garden (which is tired and a nightmare to maintain) was a mess.
- He proceeds to complain that I shouldn’t rip up plants and things in the very garden that he said was un-tidy.
- Told me not to kill the 40ft long hedge that is on my boundary line when I was trimming it.
- Asks what things are when I get them out of my car if it is not immediately obvious.
- Amazingly seems to be able to find things to do in or around his car as I load mine with things, I mean like re-arranging the rug on his back seats…he wont have even been outside when I began loading the car.
- Spent the whole 30 minutes talking to the guy from the windscreen company telling him everything about everyone when my girlfriends windscreen had to have a chip repaired.
- Proceeds to loiter and purposely walk past the house to see what’s going on.
- Ventures into my garden through my side gate (has a key from previous owners as to clean his gutters he needs access).
- Is obscenely racist
- Makes remarks about the times I go and come back from work
- Watches from his garden into mine when friends are over etc.
I have quite simply had enough of this man. I have been polite throughout and turned a blind eye to a lot of it in order to be neighbourly.
Well my neighbourly has just become having a fence put up between my garden & his against the precious bush that is on my boundary line. I won’t tell him I am doing this.
A bolt on the inside of the side gate, so he cant’ get in.
Not saying hello when I see him if I can help it.
And finally a trial with a video camera to see just how much he really does snoop!
I don’t like that my life is overlooked by him and everything is judged or commented upon. Ultimately I do not care but I would rather block him out that have to put up and listen to the things he has to say.
I am being harsh? Is this unreasonable? Do you have neighbours like this?